Dear Thanksgiving Traditions and My Weird Pet Stories

19 Nov

Growing up, I was very attached to my image of myself as a “tomboy.” All my favorite literary heroines were tomboys– Jo from Little Women, Pippi Longstocking, this strange witch who disguised herself as a boy to become a soldier instead of going into a nunnery from a series that no one else read, Eloise… I refused to enjoy The Secret Garden for a long time because there wasn’t a tomboy to be found in it.

I was just athletic enough and stubborn enough and didn’t care about clothes enough to pull this off. It both helped and hindered that my only sibling was an older sister who liked to sew and loved girly clothes– helped because by comparison, I was indeed a paragon of boyishness, hindered because I in fact did not develop any kind of toughness whatsoever. Plus I was afraid of heights, so that eliminated climbing trees, and I was terrified of getting in trouble, so that eliminated…anything that might get me in trouble.

If you know me now, you’re laughing and wondering when the last time I played a sport was, to which I respond by pointing at all my years of trophies. (OK, effort trophies that everyone got, but still.)

When I was growing up, my parents had all these sets of friends who had boy-children who were a year older than me. There was the neighborhood set, Tom and Alex– Alex went to my school and had steadily ignored me since I was five, which continued right on until I cheekily showed up in his physics class when I was just a sophomore, at which point he tried to get me to do his homework for him– and Tom was one of those gifted athletes with great hair. Upshot being: I hid in a corner during those holiday gatherings and read a book (their older sisters and my older sister were friends, which meant she got to enjoy herself, of all the sneaky moves).

The Guthries lived across the lake from us and therefore were safely out of my school district. The Guthrie twins were scarily bro-y even at the tender age of eight. Upshot being: my sister and I both hid in a corner during those holiday gatherings and read books.

The third family lived across the mountains and were easily my favorites. We used to have Thanksgiving with them every year, either there or here. I preferred going there. Erik was a year older than me and Michael was four years younger, and they had a number of advantages for all of us kids on their hometurf, most notably a ping pong table, video games, and the fact that they were allowed to watch Power Rangers.

Since the demographic was skewed toward my age, I felt a bit more comfortable here. Plus Erik, rather than being a football player, went through a skater phase, and a comic book phase if I remember correctly, and a phase where he kept a terrarium.

These were things I could compete on! As a tomboy! Maybe! Right? Like I was never going to take the scary, stocky Guthrie twins out during football, but I could pretend that I would someday learn to skateboard.

(Flash forward: I still have never met a skateboard that didn’t then turn around and introduce my ass to asphalt in the first 3 seconds of our encounter.) Plus, their parents were insistent enough on manners that we all took turns playing Frogger. (My astounding failure at skateboarding is only exceeded by my colossal inability to play video games.)

But I watched the Power Rangers like a champ, I tell you.

Michael, the younger brother, was most famous for getting kicked out of a karate class as a 5-year-old for being too rambunctious.

So ok, I never had my Disney channel original movie moment, where I grabbed a skateboard or a football or a basketball and beat all the boys on the court, and I never did get my frog all the way across the street without getting brutally smashed by an oncoming semi, and I never did Alex’s homework for him in physics class, either.

But I did make my parents buy me newts after seeing Erik’s terrarium one year at Thanksgiving. This was part of the many attempts my parents made to satisfy me with any animal other than a dog. (I’ve referenced this before, here, in a very mixed metaphor about Facebook.) So at this point I’d had several fish, and we had two cats, Bobo and Daisy. Bobo had famously lost part of an ear and his entire tail by this time, leaving a raw bony stub that never failed to disgust people.

But Bobo’s tail-loss had nothing on the newts in the end. Erik is responsible for the newt disaster. His terrarium was filled with frogs, and turtles, and little geckos, and fire-belly newts. Which were so cool. They were all black with red bellies, and when they crawled on you (of course they crawled on you), their little tiny webbed feet tickled your hand.

I wanted them bad. And, of course, newts are not dogs. They live in a glass case, and they don’t have to be walked, and their poop doesn’t have to be picked up, and they are generally known to be less work than puppies. Or even rabbits, guinea pigs, ponies, sheep, goats, hedgehogs, gerbils, rats, or giant sea turtles. Which were also on my list.

The idea was to start with fire-bellied newts and work my way up to a full terrarium, which would then make me impressively scientific and interested in reptiles, which of course are a boy thing and not a girl thing. Can you guess at this next part?

This is the part where a month or so into having the fire-bellied newts, my mom was tearing into the refrigerator trying to find what was making the kitchen smell like a combination of death, vomit, and sickly sweet putrid shit.

Once the refrigerator met ICU neo-natal standards of cleanliness and the smell still persisted, I was called in to clean the newt case. But I just did it last week, I whined. It’s not the newts. The newts aren’t stinky, they’re just boring. (Their names are long lost to time.) (Yes, I had quickly realized that newts were not as…how do I put this…interactive as a dog would have been.) (Also not cute, cuddly, personable, remotely interesting, or able to be taken outside. Also they were completely devoid of any appeal whatsoever past their first five minutes in my eager little pet-greedy hands.)

And then I walked near the newts. And it smelled. Oh god, did it smell. And I started to reach in to put them in a tupperware while I cleaned the case. And then I saw. White little oozing nubs where their feet had once been. Not just one, but all three of them.

Tiny self-cannibalizing infected carcasses of eaten feet. I wouldn’t let my parents flush them, so we returned them to the pet storeLike they were defective merchandise.

Every Thanksgiving, I think of those tiny little black legs that ended so abruptly in white pus. Fire-bellied newts are smaller than your average-sized gecko. They’re about the length of two knuckles on a child’s finger. And those amputated feet-stubs were so rotten that their smell crept into every corner of the house.

I’m not saying the newts are responsible for my current rather non-sporty, reading-and-writing nerdy feminine self, but.


8 Responses to “Dear Thanksgiving Traditions and My Weird Pet Stories”

  1. Alex 19 November 2012 at 7:02 pm #

    First of all, I laughed out loud at times.

    Second, wtf?! Why did they eat their feet? Is this a normal thing, or your fault?

    Third, I also fancied myself a tomboy for all of a few years until I discovered identical shortcomings to yours (also my feeder fish ate the fins off my swimming frog?) this must be why we are friends.

    • MM 19 November 2012 at 7:19 pm #


  2. Alex 19 November 2012 at 7:04 pm #

    (oh but I flushed them – gross dying frog and feeder fish, at punishment)

  3. Zachary SO Lough 19 November 2012 at 7:54 pm #

    My salamanders tail rotted off when I was a kid. It was a bummer. I didn’t abandon him.

    • MM 19 November 2012 at 7:57 pm #

      What are you saying, ZSOL? That I should have kept my newts and let them continue to eat each other while the rest of us asphyxiated?

  4. kristendoc 20 November 2012 at 10:20 am #

    This is an incredibly entertaining post. However, I have one issue. You told me about the newts when you were in New York a month ago and I JUST removed the vision from my head! So now I can look forward to picturing their pussy stubs clear to the end of 2012! Happy New Year to me! 😉

    • MM 20 November 2012 at 10:57 am #

      *sings* happy thanksgiving to you! happy thanksgiving to you! happy newt stubs to youuuuuu….happy turkey legs look like newt stubs to you! *end song*

  5. J Russell Mikkelsen 20 November 2012 at 2:28 pm #

    You make me want to teach you how to play video games and ride a skateboard.

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